When we see something out of the ordinary, we automatically jump to conclusions as to what it may be. Sometimes, an innocent party may even get caught in the middle.
A wife had some questions for her husband when she kept discovering strange hair in the sink after she came home. Her husband is bald and she has a pixie cut, so long strands of hair in the bathroom sink made her wonder if he was cheating.
She ended up finding the This started a few weeks ago. While cleaning the bathroom I found a number of long hair strands over my bathroom wall by the shower. This struck me as very odd because not only does my husband not have hair, I also wear a very cropped, short hairstyle. So it’s impossible for the strands I found to belong to either me or my husband.
Confused I washed them away but couldn’t stop thinking about it. I decided not to mention it but kept looking out for them. There seems to be a pattern that there’s hairs appearing when I’m either at work or out for a longer time period.
I feel like I’m going crazy and feel like I shouldn’t just immediately go to my husband cheating on me with a longer haired woman. I asked my husband about it and he just shrugged. Which makes me more paranoid as surely this is something that’s strange so why is he so blasé about it! I’m starting to think he’s playing it down to stop me from finding out the truth.
It happened again two days ago and I asked my husband again. He dismissed it but this time admitted it’s strange but told me the only explanation is that they must be my hairs. They are not and after saying so, now he’ll just ignore me if I bring it up.
I don’t want to assume my husband is cheating on me and accuse him of such over something so ridiculous, but I’m driving myself into the ground trying to work out how the hairs have got there without my husband dismissing it as nothing.
During lockdown we haven’t had any visitors (that I know of) so can rule out his sister.
TL:DR I believe my husband is cheating on me because I keep finding long hairs in the bathroom which can’t possibly belong to either of us.
Update:
I ultimately decided against getting a secret camera set up because ironically enough I didn’t want to betray my partner’s trust. Though part of me wanted to get one to squash any worries of someone living in my walls, as per some comments said!
I did though plan to leave work early, which is something I’ve never done before. My boss allowed me to leave after a half-day.
Upon returning home, nothing seemed amiss. I was expecting another car on the drive or parked outside on the street. There was no other car I didn’t recognise. Quietly letting myself in, I was immediately confused. In the hallway, there was a pair of shoes I didn’t recognise, and not only that, they looked like men’s shoes.
Standing in the hallway trying to work out what to do; if I should sneak around or make my presence known, before I could decide, my husband walked out of the kitchen with two cups of tea. By my husband’s face it was obvious he was surprised to see me.
Playing along with naivete, I asked my husband how he could have known I was coming home early to make me tea? Expecting my husband to lie, he surprised me by sitting me down and explaining everything.
At the beginning of lockdown, his friend; someone I’m not all the close with because only met once, was evicted, lost his job, and had been couch surfing. So for some days over the past couple of weeks, this guy has been travelling to our house, and with the acceptance of my husband, using our bathroom to freshen up to attend interviews. He was also borrowing shirts and suits from my husband. As it turns out, my husband’s friend has long hair and a beard.
So it turns out my husband isn’t cheating on me but was hiding the fact his long-haired friend was coming over to use our shower. After his shower, I ended up meeting “Dave”, and he turned out to be a very nice bloke just down on his luck. I wished him the best for his socially distanced interview and he went on his way.
I asked my husband why he didn’t just tell me, as I wouldn’t have had a problem with it. Turns out he was worried about my reaction and me not liking his friend or approving of the situation. He also told me Dave was very embarrassed about the whole situation and didn’t want people to know what he was having to do. I told my husband I was starting to believe he was cheating and he was shocked, having not even considering those implications while attempting covering for his friend. I told him this whole thing was ridiculous and even suggested his friend live with us until he’s back on his feet.
Funnily enough, my worst-case scenario which was mentioned in the replies was either a homeless man or woman living in my walls and sneakily using the shower. And though this seems to be half the case, I’m glad it wasn’t a stranger as such that wasn’t unwelcome and someone that wasn’t living in my walls!